When it comes to sex, there are usually two types of people: the kind that like to take charge, and the kind that don’t. And science tells us that women typically want to be submissive in the bedroom. That said, there are those that prefer to be more dominant, whether it be their nature or just a desire to switch things up.
If you’re looking for a way to take charge in the bedroom, and aren’t sure how to do it, check out these key ways to gain control and get things going – your way.
1. Take the Initiative
Taking the initiative is the epitome of taking charge in the bedroom. After all, she who starts it gets to maintain control. Try surprising your partner with a sexy whisper of things to come and see how they react. Give them the dirty details like how, when, and where you’re going to do your thing. If your partner is used to initiating, they’ll likely find this turn of events very exciting.
2. Talk Dirty
It’s not enough to preview for your partner what you plan to do with them later. During the act itself, switch up the script and talk dirty. This might feel a little awkward at first if you’re not used to it, but believe us, your partner is going to think it’s sexy.
Here are some helpful things to talk about if you’re unsure:
- Compliments about your partner’s body
- Commands telling your partner what to do
- Descriptions about what you’re going to do
- Your senses: The way your partner smells, sounds, feels, looks, and tastes
Test the waters and watch how your partner responds. This will help guide your words.
3. Try Something New
If you’re a little more experienced with taking charge, and really want to turn the heat up, try doing something new you or your partner have always wanted to try. For example, if a threesome is something your partner has always wanted to try, but you were hesitant about doing it, check out the Silicon Wives sex dolls and see if your “third person” can’t be a luxury sex doll instead.
Doing this shows your partner you care about their fantasies, prevents an actual person from entering your relationship, and is a definite take-charge kind of moment.
4. Focus on Yourself
One of the most dominant things you can do between the sheets is focus on your own pleasure. After all, only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse (which is a shame!).
Taking care of yourself before your man will show him who’s boss. Plus, it’ll make sure you’re good and ready when it comes time to pleasure him next.
5. Get on Top
Waiting for your partner to suggest you get on top (because we all know it’s one of his favorite positions!) is going to stop when you take charge. Being dominant in the bedroom is just as much about your partner as it is you. Plus, being on top gives you all the power: the speed, angle, and depth are all yours to control.
6. Try Some New Moves
It’s easy to get into a rut when it comes to sexual positions, even if they feel good. If you really want to show your man you can take charge, try incorporating some new positions into your sex soirees. Better yet, add in some sexy sensations too, like hot massage wax, vibrating sex toys, food items, and more.
And there you have it! Easy ways to take charge the next time you and your man want to get it on. Even if you’re used to being submissive, taking charge isn’t that hard to do. Trust us, your partner will enjoy the change up and your sex life is sure to benefit in more ways than one.