Doesn’t parenting a 21st century child bring with itself a whole lot of opportunities along with challenges? None of us might have ever imagined the presence of the deadly ‘blue whale’ game to be one of the worst fears faced by adults in current times. Have we conveniently forgotten the times when these humble words like an apple or a whale were simply related with fruits and sea life respectively? Today they impend to become words in a dictionary for the steep influence that has been generated and in the case of the blue whale, definitely not a very constructive one! Our little munchkins today are being raised up in a world that is nowhere close to the world we grew up in and hence we as parents have a very scanty or absolutely no knowledge of what the future years have in store for our kid’s. As responsible guardians all we can do is effectively make use of the powerful weapon of communication and the skill to get involved with our children by sharing reflections from the various life lessons that have been learnt by us about efficiently dealing with perplexing situations.
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It often amazes me on how as grownups, we hope that our children should absorb all the right ethics and morals, but yet we invest very little time on educating the same to them – for instance, the common parental proclamations like, “You never value life” or “You fail to appreciate the significance of money” have merely become a part of a parent’s resource bank when interactive. A simple example would be if you have always offered your child with a vehicle and a driver, they will never get to experience traveling by a public transport. The moment this turns into a matter of over indulgence, with no discontinuation from your side, there is no way you can blame your child. When you sit and look back at your childhood days, you must have understood the value of money and might have comprehended when your parents told you something you liked was expensive. Times then were way to different from what it is today, as children then, we acknowledged a lot more only because we were never provided with a justification or a reason to start with.
Children living in the 21st century, are trained to question, to find out, analyze, inquire and that is an expectancy we as parents have set for them. If we have managed to encourage them to reason and contemplate, isn’t it our duty to uncover them, giving a glimpse of what reality is? The trick is to demonstrate it but by letting them fall at times, allowing them to make errors, take risks and even fail. These life-changing experiences will not but facilitate them in realizing that life comprises of no perfect answer. The idea is to make them experience a little bit of grey to realize that it isn’t always about black or white. It’s vital for our children to experience the ways of dealing through the magnitudes, apprehend the cause and consequence and also learn the tactic of helping themselves deal with tough situations.
All that I have tried to describe above is nothing but ways to teach your child to deal with life. Once they learn to cope up with the various unforeseen hurdles coming their way, the alarming games like Blue Whale would not really interest them. This is because they have had discussions with parents, helping them to share their anxieties, feelings and will open up in times they need support or parental guidance. Therefore all the discussions that you have with your children need to be fixated on sharing experiences- the ways you can address your own nervousness, disquiet at work or social life and the way you cope up with your feelings from extreme thwarting to extreme contentment. You can also discuss with them about ways to deal with difficult situations and to emerge out victoriously. If educational institutions and we as parents offer such a support system to our young turks, there is no way they can fall prey to these online games simply because they will be well protected.
I personally believe, conversing about life experiences with children and endowing them is the way we control ourselves as parents. There emerges a need for us to replicate meticulously on our own actions and doings and simultaneously work out how much of these can our children emulate? This will give us a clear picture is determining if we are good enough as role models for them along with being proficient to have these conversations with our growing adolescents.
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