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Sharing Your Marital problems with Friends of Opposite Sex Is a Big No

Marriages may be fixed in heaven, but staying happily married is in the couples hands. It is a delicate relationship and one has to handle every step with love and care. There are so many details in a married life that only the married couple know. Allowing a third person to interfere or settle the problems would be incorrect for various reasons.

Sharing your marital problems with a friend of the opposite sex spells danger. If it is a woman who is sharing the problem with a male friend, the friend may read between the words and draw his own conclusions. He may feel the lady is heartbroken and needs his shoulder to cry; rather she needs to be shielded.

If he openly questions the husband, then instead of saving the marriage he would worsen the situation. The husband would only feel let down or shattered.

On the other hand, if it is the husband who shares his wife’s minus points with his friend from the fair sex, he too will be inviting trouble. If this other woman has had a crush on him earlier and had to be disappointed because he chose to marry someone else, then this female friend will give her best to break the marriage to win him back.

So, on both counts, sharing marital problems with a friend of the opposite sex is a big NO!

On the contrary, seeking a counselor’s help would be a better option. The person approached has the expertise to deal with all sorts of problems and would be in a position to suggest ways to settle things.

Marriages in the western countries don’t happen all of a sudden. It’s only after a long period of courtship that a man proposes. Both of them have seen, observed each other from different angles.

So, settling their bedroom issues or any other marital issues should not be difficult. The couple can talk about the issues calmly without hurting each other. They can find midway solutions.

If both of them care deeply for each other and want their marriage to work, then trying to solve their issues without a third person’s intervention would be the best solution.

The marriage will remain intact and not become a public topic of discussion. Neither of the spouses will feel let down nor hurt. They will remain happily married for long.

More so, for the friends of the fairer sex having male friends is healthy provided both understand the limitations and where to draw the line. You cannot have close male friends without inviting trouble at a later date. So, be cautious. Sharing your marital problems with your male friends will only get you into trouble.

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