The most common discussion topic among parents is their children. Talking about the child’s academic and other achievements brings them to a topic of concern – the changed behavior of the children. Every parent, at one time or the other has had to hear and bear a few ill spoken words by his or her child. Only the degree of rudeness varies.

It is only natural that a parent wonders about the sudden change. Sometimes, an adult has difficulty in accepting, understanding and coping with children from ten’s to the late teens.

Counselors, child psychologists and experts who deal with remedial teaching say that there are many reasons for this change. The vital and important aspect is the changes and development of the reasoning and analytical features in the grey matter.

They have their own growing up issues, the peer problems, their acceptance in a group and many more. So, all that the adults at home can do is accepting these changes and give allowances to their transitional period. Help your child adjust in his adolescence.

Besides being considerate, parents can try to decode these changes and find solutions to these issues. Try to help the teens find a balance between their emotional and thinking elements of their brains.

The steps to be taken by parents:

• Acceptance Instead of reacting, peaceful. This too shall pass; your child will come out of the bad mood. You have the experience and understanding to help yourself and your growing child.
• Set your limits. Draw a line if you find the youngster become very rude. Make yourself clear about what is allowed and what is not permitted. Allow your child to express his feelings, likes and dislikes in a friendly way. But, do not pay attention if he is throwing tantrums.

• Ideal role model. Check your own behavior patterns. If the fault lies in the adult, then blaming the child will only worsen the situation.
• Be approachable. Make your child feel that you can be trusted and will try to help clear his confused mind.
• Mind your words. Children learn from the grownups, so be careful about what you say in front of youngsters.

Decode your pre-teens’ and teens’ brain with understanding and care. Help them to enjoy their growing factor. Give them space and support them to achieve their goals without pressurizing them.