Adjusting or befriending in-laws is difficult for both. However, it is more difficult for the young brides as it is she who has entered a new home. Everything around is new and strange. If the couple is staying with his parents, then the young woman will have hands full trying to please the seniors.

Thanks to the current lifestyle due to which most new couples stay separate; either in the vicinity or in a different city or town, But wherever they are, clashes or difference of opinions are inevitable when visited by the in-laws.

The young woman has to find out ways and means to sort the differences without getting hurt and at the same time not hurting her new family. It is necessary to understand that the husband is no longer just a son, but also the head of his new formed family. This fact is difficult for the mother (mother-in-law) to accept. On the other hand, the new bride feels that her privacy is being disturbed. The centre of the issue for both is same; each of the ladies has to give the other some time to adjust the new change in the relations.

The ideal way to solve all sorts of mother-in-law issue would be to stay calm, be polite and at the same time, rethink about your way of handling things. Ideally let the son talk on your behalf. The old lady will not be offended and no ill feelings for the daughter-in-law.

If it is the father-in-law who visits every weekend, then try arranging alternate weekends for him and use the other two for your other activities. Understand that you cannot ignore your in-laws. They are part of your life.

In general, most of the in-law problems happen because of not being rightly prepared for the new family member. Parents of the boy feel their son being shared by another person. Once they understand that they have a place in the son’s life and that they are welcome to his place anytime, most of these issues will settle down. The daughter-in-law will in turn be accepted and included in the family.

Whether it is the parents or the siblings, let the son resolve the matter. Your in-laws can be a great support. Try and make the family bonding strong without disturbing your own way of life greatly. Make allowances for his family and yours. Give your children the best of both. Let them grow in the grand parent’s love. This will only strengthen your kid’s upbringing.

Make your in-laws feel that they are a part of your family and Mother-in-law will automatically be your second mother.