We generally have the habit of worrying about our children’s future and their capabilities of making choices. This makes us possessive as well as aggressive. You may have noticed that when your daughter makes any decision or choice which is not good for her, you simply get upset and aggressively possessive.

To stop this and help your child make the right choice/decision you should opt the following methods.

1. Let them choose: Don’t fight or force your child to do something against her will. Give her the choice to make her own decision. For e.g. you want your child to study, now forcing her to study at a particular time will make you evil in her mind, and compel her to do just against that forced resolution. Give her a couple of options, a few timings to choose from. Let her also choose where she desires to study. This will make them comfortable and self-dependent.

2. Limit the choices: Now as you have given them some choices and liberties also let them know till what extend they should choose or decide. For e.g. she might want to study in late night. Here, you need to sit with her and “Talk”, you need to inform her how important is sleeping, “early to bed and early to rise” she should always stick to this principle. Likewise, you need to guide her and let her know about the decisions she is taking or leaving. But, be soft on them, they are at their tender age, when all they need is love and affection with proper guidance.

3. Help them know the difference: You might have heard your child saying “I don’t want to study ever” or “I hate eating spinach”. But you know that these things are good for her health and life. So you need to become her friend and show her what she is missing and what she might get or become if she discontinues her studies. Tell her something about your life, some incidents that inspired you to study or to have a healthy diet. A child is always closest to her mother and she always takes her mother as an example or let’s say ideal. Your life’s problems and decisions might help her tackle her life’s problems and make the right choice.